Person Type: The Perpetual Victim

I have a good amount of friends, sure I could stand to have more, but what I lack in quantity, I make up for in quality, I like to think.  But the number always changes; friends come and they go, its hard to be very diamond when you’re just a friend, because no matter what you do, you’re never going to be forever.  I’ve lost a lot of friends, but really, that’s not a consequence of me, its really just a consequence of having friends.

I can’t say for sure why I come across perpetual victims so often, but I know that I do.  Every couple of years they make an appearance among my friends, and usually it never ends well.  It all starts with a simple argument carried out like pamela anderson’s boobs, blown out of proportion, and taken too far.  Then of course, you have the rehashing of the events, a careful examination of what happened on both sides.  Next, however, is what sets the perpetual victim apart from the average person - they begin to take the stance not only that you are wrong but that you did this to them.

Think of it as when you were a child, and you would get into an argument over something ridiculously inconsequential with a sibling or a friend, say over a twizzler.  Well, say it leads to a tug of war over the said twizzler, in a very literal sense of the word - you on one end, and your friend on the other end of the candy, actually pulling.  As both of you pull harder, one of falls and the twizzler falls into the grass, now inedible.  The perpetual victim, in this case, wouldn’t just be mad over a silly twizzler, but would be insistent that you did it on purpose just so they wouldn’t have the twizzler.  They would become the victim.

A perpetual victim does this in every argument in every situation simply because people respond to it, and cave in so easily - you don’t want someone to think you did something personally against them, do you?  My parents, for instance, don’t do this very often, but they always became a victim when it came to poor grades.  ”I can’t believe you did this to me.”  I didn’t do anything to you.  It wasn’t about you, I just didn’t get good grades.

I will take the time now to admit, in most arguments, blame is to be had on both sides, and that really all arguments are, are misunderstandings.  However, they are necessary if you wish to live in a world where there were no people. That said, we would all be better off in a world where there were no perpetual victims.